My life is full of the unexpected, unpredicted, unwarranted blessings. I post about many of them often. I try to live my life in such a way that the blessings do not go unrealized. I fail often, but I do try. Even in the worst circumstances, there are blessings to be realized. There truly is always something for which to be thankful. ALWAYS.
Most of you who follow this blog are family and close friends. So many of you know my story. You may even have lived part(s) of it with me. Abuse. Broken home. Divorce. And therefore, times of anger, rebellion, bitterness, emptiness. Sin. It is never pretty or fun. But the amazing thing is that God can take all that bound up in the heart, blanket it with Jesus' blood, and bring the blessings out of charred, barren wasteland. Bitterness becomes rejoicing. Empty is full. Rebellion is obedience. Anger is joy. AMAZING.
Too often kids in a divorce are prisoners of war. No matter if the parents are "friends" and its an "amicable split" or any other explanation people tend to give, its not the way God intended for marriage. Period. And that is not a debatable topic with me. I've lived it. And I wouldn't wish it upon anyone--ever.
That being said, I--along with the full support and encouragement of Daryl--had long since decided that I would not continue the cycle of unforgiveness and mistrust and rehashing of old wounds (that so often is the case in divorce) with my kids. They would not become second-generation prisoners as long as I had something to do with it! They will know (as they and I already do) that they are loved so very much--by all their family. They will find that people fail, but God is faithful. They will see that forgiveness trumps any hurt. That's God's way. Not the easiest at times, but always the best. And they will witness that God can do anything and everything with any situation to His glory!
So my story doesn't begin or end with the sin that tried to rob me of all things joyful--of all things from God. I have realized a multitude of blessings in the midst of the many storms. I'm still realizing them every day! And the storms aren't anything as they used to be thanks to my trust in the Anchor!!
All that to say, today I'm sharing about a special, unexpected blessing. Totally unexpected yet more appreciated every day. Today is my step dad Jim's birthday! And today I celebrate the handiwork of God in our relationship. What started years ago as a time of weekly fasting and prayer by Jim on behalf of the strained relationship between my mom and me has been rewarded by healing not only between she and I, but also he and I--something I'm sure he never thought would occur. But that's the business God's in--full out amazement so there's no question as to His power and glory!
I celebrate the many, many blessings not only in my and Daryl's life, but also in the lives of my kids because of just this. I am continually amazed at the healing that has taken place in my heart, the love that grows and flourishes, the peace that overwhelms me when it comes to "Pap"--as he's so affectionately called around these parts.
I know there was a time when he worried as whether or not all the grandkids would love him differently or less when they found out he wasn't theirs by blood. Well, out of the currently seven grandkids, none of them could give a hoot about bloodlines. All they know is their Pap thinks the world of them, loves them to the ends of the Earth, prays for them regularly, and makes them feel as though they are the greatest bunch of kids running around this planet. What else is a Pap for if it isn't to do just that??
Being silly with Brayden
Special time with Miss Savannah
Baptizing & celebrating our niece, Elle, with Uncle Frank
My most favorite memory caught on film...The Puddle
Enjoying The Puddle together
Happy, happy birthday, PAP! Here's to the unexpected, unpredicted, unwarranted blessing that you are to us in so many ways. We love you & celebrate you!!
2 comments:
There should be a warning posted to prevent me from crying in front of my class. I check your blog daily, and started to read it with my class still in the room. Soon I was crying like Sophia when her Mama leaves the room. The Lord realy did wonderous things in our lives and Jim can truely be counted as one. Thank you for letting us share in you and your families lives, we count it as great joy. I love you Mandy!
LOVED the post!! God blessed this family enormously when he gave us PUP PUP!!
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